Only 3%

Only 3% of You Have Set 2013 Goals…

Is that really true? Only 3% of us set goals. Wow! This is an alarming stat and one that I hope will not be the norm for you.

So, if you haven’t set your personal and family goals, here are some points to consider:

  1. Most of us have heard it…”your goals should be smart“: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-based. Take a well-rounded approach to setting goals – set goals that are centered on …
    1. Faith
       i.     Maybe read the bible in a year (Join the 90 Day Plan with me)
      ii.     Develop a life of fasting & praying
    2. Family
      i.     Set a date for family night
      ii.     Set a date night with your spouse
      iii.     Reading to your kids at night
    3. Finance
      i.     Consider doing the 52 Week Money Challenge – click here to learn more
    4. Fitness
      i.     Exercise 3 times a week
      ii.     Improve your daily eating habits

I hope this gives you a jump start for a victorious year!  What are your thoughts about setting goals?


I Just Want to be Successful

The evidence is clear and convincing that the better your relationships are at home, the more successful you are in every other aspect of your life. Your career is better. There tends to be more harmony in your friendships.  You also see tremendous growth spiritually. On the other hand, however, if you’re having difficulty with a loved one, that difficulty will be translated into reduced performance on the job, discord in friendships, and certainly an empty spiritual life.

In studying the millionaires in America (U.S. News and World Report), a picture of the “typical” millionaire is an individual who has worked eight to ten hours a day for thirty years and is still married to his or her high school or college sweetheart. A New York executive search firm, in a study of 1365 corporate vice presidents, discovered that 87% were still married to their one and only spouse and that 92% were raised in two-parent families. The evidence is overwhelming that the family is the strength and foundation of society. When you follow God’s biblical design for the family, you strengthen family ties and enhance your opportunity to succeed.

When we look at God’s plan for our families, there is one word to sum up success …submit!  When we submit we surrender ourselves to the authority or will of another. Every member of the family must give up something for the sake of others.  Take a look at some proven ways that wives, husbands, and children submit in family relationships to make it work:

  • Wives submit by
    – Supporting their husband in ways that show their support for Christ
    – By believing that God says their husband is their leader
  • Husbands submit by
    – By going all out in love for their wife
    – By sacrificing everything
    – By making his wife’s well-being his primary concern
    – By treating her as his equal
  • Children submit by
    – Being obedient to their parents
    – Honoring their father and mother

Carry out your role in the family to help it be all that God wants it to be, and enjoy the  success!

Who’s Calling the Plays?

Quarterbacks are the leaders of the offensive team, responsible for calling the plays.  At most levels, but especially at the college and professional level, the quarterback role is one of the most visible and important roles on the team. The quarterback touches the ball on nearly every offensive play and has a great deal of responsibility both in making decisions and executing in the heat of battle.  Traditionally, quarterbacks have been responsible for calling the team’s offensive plays based on the defense’s formation, or game situation. To choose the proper play, quarterbacks often spend time rehearsing and studying prearranged plays during their team’s practice sessions. Peyton Manning, arguably the best play caller in the NFL, exemplifies this best each game day.

When it comes to the communication in your family, who’s calling the plays? As parents, we have a huge responsibility to direct our families with positive, biblical communication. Through this type of “play calling” we prepare our kids to face the defense’s formation, or should I say Satan’s formation?  Every day there will be things that require us to defend our family’s faith and fight off Satan’s attack. For us to choose the right plays at the right time we have to make a disciplined effort to study God’s word in order to correctly execute His game plan.  Our victory comes when we call the right play and see our families run it without flaws.

Here are four points to consider when calling plays for your family.

1.     My words bring salvation to my family
Let me tell you something: Every one of these careless words is going to come back to haunt you. There will be a time of Reckoning. Words are powerful; take them seriously. Words can be your salvation. Words can also be your damnation. (Matthew 12:36-37 MSG)

2.     When we listen and are patient with our words, we get understanding
A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly (Proverbs 14:29).

3.     Your Opinion Doesn’t Matter
 A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions (Proverbs 18:2).

4.     Guard the life of your loved ones
Those who are careful about what they say protect their lives, but whoever speaks without thinking will be ruined (Proverbs 13:3).

The Ten Commandments of Rekindling the Flame in Your Marriage

What are you doing right now to keep the flame burning high in your marriage?  What fuel are you adding to the fire?  To keep any fire going, combustible elements must be added to it. In a time when one of Satan’s primary goals is to destroy the family, Christians can’t sit back and watch it happen. God’s purpose is not to bring you and your spouse together as one just to break you up, but many of us are willing to accept just that because of our selfish motives.
So here’s our challenge: Today, be the game changer and begin doing whatever it takes to keep the flame in your marriage red-hot!  God is counting on you; your kids are counting on you, and even relatives.  At Victorious we had a great time this past Sunday learning the Ten Commandment of rekindling the flame in our marriages and I want to share them with you:
  1. Thou shalt put aside anger and forgive – 2 Corinthians 2:10
    Stop carrying that grudge or anger in your heart and forgive.
  2. Thou shalt always pray – 1 Thessalonians 5:17
    Let your spouse hear you praying for them. Believe me it will do wonders for your relationship.
  3. Thou shalt be attractive
    Work to be attractive to your spouse in every way.   
  4. Thou shalt compliment each other – Song of Solomon 1:9-16
    Hearing your compliments reassures their value to you. Be sincere!
  5. Thou shalt set aside a date night
    QT is a must!
  6. Thou shalt be spontaneous
    Being predictable breeds complacency. Stir things up!
  7. Thou shalt write love letters
    Facebook and Twitter are cool, but a hand written letter blows the mind!
  8. Thou shalt try new things sexually 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 (Message Bible)
    Sex in marriage is good and holy, and ordained by God.
  9. Thou shalt hold in honor thy marriage – Hebrews 13:4
    This requires the utmost in Christian conviction and sensitivity.
  10. Thou shalt remember how you fell in love
    Remembering the “firsts” in your marriage ignites the passion.

I pray that you will consider using these “Ten Commandments” as a way to restore the love you and your spouse once had.  Let’s turn it around and be more than just another divorce statistic.