Are you having great sex God’s way?

Realizing that sex is a gift from God for marriage gives us an understanding of how to have great sex God’s way! Without boring you with a bunch of stats on sex in our culture, it’s clear to see we live in a sex-crazed world! Just turn on your nearest TV, radio, computer, or even your smartphone. But what if we did things differently and began to really believe God about sex, instead of following the world’s example?

Doesn’t it make sense that if sex was God’s idea and His creation from the beginning of time, that He knows how we should use it? Yes (and thanks for agreeing with me)! So take a look into the mind of God, through the Apostle Paul, as he describes the responsibilities of husbands and wives regarding sex in marriage. 

1 Corinthians 7:2-5:  2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 

I think we all agree that sex is used quite often by Satan to tempt us and to destroy our marriages and families. How will you take a stand today and use this great gift to strengthen your marriage and satisfy your spouse?

Just a Friend?

How many of you have ever been introduced as “a friend”? You’ve been hanging out with a person for quite some time but, all too often the introduction is the same – “she’s just a friend”, or “he’s just a friend”. For most of us this isn’t anything unusual. But what does the title ‘friend’ really mean? Without forcing an answer on you, I’ll allow you to think about it and answer it yourself while I take a bold step to expose my thoughts.

I must admit that I have introduced female acquaintances as friends. And in those instances, it was just that. She was a friend — at least those were my thoughts. Now, if you asked for her point of view, the answer may have been quite different. Maybe she thought we were more than just friends. Maybe she wanted to be more than friends.  Nonetheless, I stood my ground to let the public know she was just a friend.

Now this stream of thought characterizes modern dating to the fullest extent. Biblical dating, however, is vastly different. Modern dating assumes that a person will “play the field” until the right person is found. While biblical dating has the goal to be with one person of the opposite sex with marriage as the destination. I hear you loud and clear that this is old school! But I defend the fact that there is nothing old about God and His desire for your to live a holy life (1 Thessalonians 4:1-8). Yes it’s hard but I know some of you are doing it. So, what are your thoughts about being introduced as a friend? How do you date, while trying to live out your faith?