Are you having great sex God’s way?

Realizing that sex is a gift from God for marriage gives us an understanding of how to have great sex God’s way! Without boring you with a bunch of stats on sex in our culture, it’s clear to see we live in a sex-crazed world! Just turn on your nearest TV, radio, computer, or even your smartphone. But what if we did things differently and began to really believe God about sex, instead of following the world’s example?
Doesn’t it make sense that if sex was God’s idea and His creation from the beginning of time, that He knows how we should use it? Yes (and thanks for agreeing with me)! So take a look into the mind of God, through the Apostle Paul, as he describes the responsibilities of husbands and wives regarding sex in marriage. 
1 Corinthians 7:2-5:  But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 
I think we all agree that sex is used quite often by Satan to tempt us and to destroy our marriages and families. How will you take a stand today and use this great gift to strengthen your marriage and satisfy your spouse?
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Just a Friend?

How many of you have ever been introduced as “a friend”? You’ve been hanging out with a person for quite some time but, all too often the introduction is the same – “she’s just a friend”, or “he’s just a friend”. For most of us this isn’t anything unusual. But what does the title ‘friend’ really mean? Without forcing an answer on you, I’ll allow you to think about it and answer it yourself while I take a bold step to expose my thoughts.
ImageI must admit that I have introduced female acquaintances as friends. And in those instances, it was just that. She was a friend — at least those were my thoughts. Now, if you asked for her point of view, the answer may have been quite different. Maybe she thought we were more than just friends. Maybe she wanted to be more than friends.  Nonetheless, I stood my ground to let the public know she was just a friend.
Now this stream of thought characterizes modern dating to the fullest extent. Biblical dating, however, is vastly different. Modern dating assumes that a person will “play the field” until the right person is found. While biblical dating has the goal to be with one person of the opposite sex with marriage as the destination. I hear you loud and clear that this is old school! But I defend the fact that there is nothing old about God and His desire for your to live a holy life (1 Thessalonians 4:1-8). Yes it’s hard but I know some of you are doing it. So, what are your thoughts about being introduced as a friend? How do you date, while trying to live out your faith?

This Week in Worship: All About Love

John 13:34-35: “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.

L.O.V.E.  is a simple four-letter word that is too often made complex.  However, God makes clear His expectation as it relates to the people around us.  We are to love one another just as He loves us – unselfishly and unconditionally.  If we are being honest with ourselves, sometimes that’s hard to do!  I am often reminded in those moments of the phrase WWJD (What Would Jesus Do)?  Despite hurt, anger, unmet expectations – we are to love one another.  When we worship God, we are displaying reverent love and devotion.

We must also remind ourselves that love is an action word.  It is easy in the hustle and bustle of life to simply say, “I love you,” out of habit.  But, what action are you taking to demonstrate your love for others?  Let’s take the time this month to put our love into action!  What greater time to start than during the month with a holiday set aside for L.O.V.E!

In the Spirit of Victory,

Kristi

Kristi McBride is a member of the Victorious Living Church praise team.

The Stats on Marriage

gavel-wedding-rings-broken-heart-30050% of all marriages end in divorce. This statistic alone can scare the best of us. Some would argue that this stat is incorrect, and in fact, they may say the rate of divorce is decreasing. We won’t spend time debating, but we do know that over that past 30 years this statistic has, for the most part, held true. Take a moment and ask yourself the question: is your marriage the next statistic? Tough one, huh? What are your thoughts at this very moment about your spouse and the state of your union? What are the flies on your wall gossiping about? More importantly, what does God think about it?

I don’t at all proclaim to be a marriage expert, but I am an expert in analyzing the positive and negative impact my actions have on my marriage.  And if I’m honest with myself, I realize there are more opportunities to be an asset than a liability. My hope is that you feel the same way.

One of the main areas where you can truly add value to your marriage is communication. Think about it. How many times do you sincerely compliment your spouse during the week or even the month?  This easy, but very thoughtful and powerful way to communicate your love could be exactly what your marriage needs. And if you need help on words to say, then check out Song of Solomon 1:1-17.  There are nearly 15 compliments made by the couple in this passage of scripture alone. What are some other ideas you have to prevent marriages from becoming the next statistic?

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Dangerously in Love

Beyonce said she is “dangerously in love” with her man! We know it, or at least from the distance of our flat screen, we see it. Does it seem to you that she is dangerously in love with Jay?  Yes I realize the song “Dangerously in Love” was written over ten years ago but it seem so befitting based on the perceptions of their marriage.

Now shift gears and get into the driver’s seat of your marriage – ask yourself the question, am I dangerously in love with my spouse? This question obviously can be answered many ways, so lets provide a fair standard that we can all use as a measurement – the lyrics.

Baby I love you, you are my life
The happiest moments weren’t complete if you weren’t by my side
You’re my relation and connection to the sun
With you next to me there’s no darkness I can’t overcome
You are the raindrops I am the seed,
With you and God, who’s the sunlight I’ll bloom and grow so beautifully Baby I’m so proud, proud to be your girl
You make the confusion go all away from this cold and messed up world

Cause I am in love with you, you set me free
I can’t do this thing called life without you here with me
‘Cause I’m dangerously in love with you
I’ll never leave just keep lovin’ me the way I love you loving me

So, are you dangerously in love? You’re probably saying, ‘I used to be dangerously in love at the beginning of our marriage.”  If so, what will it take for you to get back to being dangerously in love?  I want that for your marriage and I believe it can happen.  Consider the verses below and share your thoughts on what couples can do to be dangerously in love.

Revelation 2:4-5 Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken the love you had at first. Consider how far you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first.

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Join us this Sunday for part 1 of this exciting series!

Brand new you

I, like many other pastors, stood in the pulpit over the past few Sundays with a sincere desire to motivate you to start the year off right. I, like many other pastors, will do my best to make you believe that 2013 will be the best year ever! I will attempt to get you back on track to reach goals not accomplished last year. But with all honesty, there is really nothing I can do to motivate you other than point you to the inspiration of God’s word.

In 2 Corinthians 5:17, Paul excites us with this statement, “if anyone is in Christ they are a new creation!” Yes, you are new! No matter the outcome of your past, God says that you can live everyday in the newness of life. He has produced a change so great in you that it’s proper to say you are a brand new person.

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I believe your perspectives are new, your motives are new, there are new principles, new objects and new plans of life. You have new purposes and now live for new ends. There is a change so deep, so clear, so entire, and so lasting, that it is only right to recognize and say you have been re-created! You are a work of the Divine power as glorious as when God created all things out of nothing.

I challenge you to stop living in the past and let the “New You” be manifested by God Himself.

Only 3%

Only 3% of You Have Set 2013 Goals…

Is that really true? Only 3% of us set goals. Wow! This is an alarming stat and one that I hope will not be the norm for you.

So, if you haven’t set your personal and family goals, here are some points to consider:

  1. Most of us have heard it…”your goals should be smart“: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-based. Take a well-rounded approach to setting goals – set goals that are centered on …
    1. Faith
       i.     Maybe read the bible in a year (Join the 90 Day Plan with me)
      ii.     Develop a life of fasting & praying
    2. Family
      i.     Set a date for family night
      ii.     Set a date night with your spouse
      iii.     Reading to your kids at night
    3. Finance
      i.     Consider doing the 52 Week Money Challenge – click here to learn more
    4. Fitness
      i.     Exercise 3 times a week
      ii.     Improve your daily eating habits

I hope this gives you a jump start for a victorious year!  What are your thoughts about setting goals?